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Child Adoption

Preparing to bring home baby

Bringing home a new child is an exciting, exhilarating and scary time, whether that child came about naturally, artificially or through adoption. However, to reach this point, adoptive parents must struggle through applications, background checks, interviews and waiting lists before they can finally add to their families.

If you’re considering adoption, there are different options available to you:

Agency adoptions

Parents adopt through a local public agency or a licensed private agency (this includes both domestic and inter-country programs).

Independent adoptions

Parents can seek legal representation to make an identified adoption. This happens when parents seeking to adopt find a pregnant woman planning on putting her child up for adoption and make a legal agreement that the parents will adopt the child once it is born. This is allowed in most states.

In all states, birthparents legally hold the right of consent to adoption of their child. When the parents are not available, that right falls to an agency or another individual who has been given custody.

Preparing to adopt

What will agencies and birthparents look for in adoptive parents? Laws vary from state-to-state and biological parents will have different preferences, but the following are some basic criteria people will look for in adoptive parents:

  • Legal criteria: In general, any single adult or a husband and wife jointly can be eligible to adopt. Stepparents can also adopt the birth child of their spouses.
  • Agency criteria: Final decisions are made on an individual basis, but many agencies take factors like age, health, marital status, citizenship, finances and work schedules into account when approving adoptions. Adoptive parents will also need to provide references and police background checks.
  • Criteria sought by birth parents: People giving up babies are giving them up for a reason - they want to know that the children will be raised in a healthy, happy home. These requirements are more subjective, as birthparents might look for people with similar morals and attitudes, as well as careers, health, age and finances.

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iam 20and have a 17mth old due to a ceaserean i can no longer have the big family ive always wished for....i would love to adop a child up to five years of age.
Posted on 5/4/2010 12:17:00 PM by Anonymous
i am alone i am a bank manager i need a child of my own for whom i may live
Posted on 4/28/2010 12:36:00 PM by Anonymous
I really want kids and I dont no why the people that cant have babys have to go thru a lot of troble I a good person and I will go thru anything to have a couple of kids
Posted on 4/11/2010 6:38:00 PM by Anonymous
Located in FLORIDA, I am seeking to adopt a child age 1 years old or older, thru a private adoption situation. Birthmom welcome to stay in touch. flgailann@aol.com
Posted on 4/10/2010 2:01:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I would love to adopt a newborn baby that simply needs to be loved. We have been married for 9 years, and only recently confirmed we were unable to concieve naturally with a 2% chance. We have 5 loving niece and nephews that would love for their 'Wowo & Bud" to give them a baby cousin. If you can help in anyway, please contact us. kelleybridgeman@yahoo.com
Posted on 3/29/2010 3:43:00 PM by Anonymous
My partner and i would love to adopt from a child from hati or from any where just need to information on how to persue this desire. contact us at dvlwilliams@yahoo.com
Posted on 2/13/2010 9:10:00 PM by Anonymous
Wake up & smell the enfamil, folks... the Internet is NOT the place to launch a safe and ethical adoption. Cameroon adoption appeals are always a scam. African-American children in the US deserve loving homes just as much as Haitian kids. $40k+ adoptions are not adoptions, they're babyselling schemes and those who buy can get in as much trouble as those who sell. Do your homework, people! The naivety of the folks posting these comments and sappy "wannababy appeals" are a clear indication why so many adoption scams succeed in this country. (Scary, indeed!)
Posted on 2/9/2010 5:23:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I would love to adopt an infant male child from Haiti. Please contact us with information on where and how to begin.
Posted on 2/4/2010 12:25:00 AM by Anonymous
Me and my husband would like to adopt we have no ideal how to get started, we will love to adopt a little girl from Haiti or a little girl in American. Please help us you can contact us at Sandra.law@att.net
Posted on 2/3/2010 12:12:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I would like to adopt a child or siblings from Haiti. We have two sons 6 and 3 yrs old. We really would like to open up our home to a Haitian child or siblings to help them in this crisis that has hit there families and country as a whole. Please Contact Us....May God Bless You and the Heavens smile upon you. Kenya Claiborne .Mz.KClaiborne@yahoo.com
Posted on 2/1/2010 10:57:00 AM by Anonymous
I would like to adopt 1 - 3 children under the age of 5. I am a teacher and have always dreamed of being a mom. Please contact me at mmajchrzak@nhav.misd.net. I so look forward to hearing from you.
Posted on 1/31/2010 11:06:00 AM by Anonymous
My husban and I would love to adopt a little girl from haiti.. we have 15 years old and 8 years old sons. we love to have a daughter. please contact us..GOD BLESS YOU. julisasommer@yahoo.com
Posted on 1/30/2010 10:46:00 PM by Anonymous
My email address is mrgcleffel@roadrunner.com. Please contact us. ~Rachel Leffel
Posted on 1/30/2010 9:41:00 PM by Anonymous
I am a sign language interpreter. my 2 boys have been learning sign language since they were born. My husband is familiar with the language and is prepared to be fluent pending the process of adoption of a deaf child. As we are a signing family, and there are not many around to adopt, we are very much interested in adopting a deaf girl. Our finances are severly budgeted. what would it take to adopt? ~Rachel Leffel
Posted on 1/30/2010 9:39:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I would love to adopt a infant from Haiti. We have a son 12 and a daughter 18. please contact us at bclaugh@crestviewcable.com
Posted on 1/30/2010 12:10:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I would love to adopt a infant form haiti. We have a 15 year old girl and a 18 yeaar old son. We are in our mid thirtys and do not want to have a empty nest. We own our home, and it sets on 8 acres. There is so much room here for a baby to grow up in. Yes we have dog's and a cat. Please,Please help us adopt a baby so he/she will have the rest of His or her life to grow up with a happy family. I have lived in Kentucky all my life. My husband,childern and I will be hoping for great new from you soon. PLESAE contact me at stantsb@yahoo.cm
Posted on 1/29/2010 3:41:00 PM by Anonymous
PCOS is a deterent to concieving, but not the end. My daughter and her good friend are both afflicted, but, through fertility treatments and lots of prayer, both gave birth last year to healthy babies. PCOS is not curable, but not the only reason one does not conceive. You must find a good infertility clinic that will try several things before giving up. Blessings to you.
Posted on 1/28/2010 12:46:00 PM by Anonymous
my daughter and i would like to adopt a bay girl from haiti age (0-10 months). please contact me @ tweetylover0923@hotmail.com
Posted on 1/27/2010 9:07:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I want to adopt a little girl or boy from Haiti. If you can please help, please contact Maria at pakosi@yahoo.com
Posted on 1/23/2010 9:21:00 PM by Anonymous
Would love to adopt a girl over 2. I have 2 sons 18 and 20. My husband and I soon will be empty nesters and always wanted a girl. We would love and care for a child. We lived In Pueto Rico for 10 years. I miss the people and the country deeply. I feel so bad for the people of Haiti. Would love to help. juanita_chisholm@hotmail.com
Posted on 1/23/2010 6:30:00 PM by Anonymous
hi my name is Diane i want 2 adopt a newborn from hiati i am single mom of a 17 year old son that i raise by my self and i think i have done a good job with him he is in the 11th going 2 the 12th grade.and i have seen the kids on tv that family have adopt.my fiance is in hiati with the UASF he went take supples over there.and my email address is dharris@yahoo.com and i am in noth carolina and my num is 910-571-4760 call me asp.
Posted on 1/23/2010 11:36:00 AM by Anonymous
I am also interested in adopting a child from Haiti - girl 8 to 10 yr old. Will provide foster care now until adoption can be completed if allowable. Please contact me at elizkamb@yahoo.com
Posted on 1/21/2010 10:42:00 PM by Anonymous
Single foster mom. I would like to adopt one or two children. I own my own home and am a licensed therapeutic foster parent, but do not have any children placed in my home right now. I would prefer younger children under 5. please email me mistadim@yahoo.com
Posted on 1/21/2010 1:41:00 PM by Anonymous
I would love to adopt 1-2 children from Haiti age(s) 0-5... Jenn dahlfins2yahoo.com
Posted on 1/21/2010 12:57:00 AM by Anonymous
Want to adopt 1-3 children from Haiti, siblings preferred. Any ages from birth to age 8, boys and girls. Please contact donefamily3@aol.com
Posted on 1/21/2010 12:07:00 AM by Anonymous
Want to Adopt from Haiti. Currently have three children! Please contact me @ nicole_whitewolf@hotmail.com
Posted on 1/20/2010 11:14:00 PM by Anonymous
Want to Adopt 2 Chiildren (ages 2 - 4) from Haiti (prefer siblings). Please contact me at jeffscheuerman@yahoo.com or 847-859-2383.
Posted on 1/20/2010 10:34:00 PM by Anonymous
Seeking to Adopt Boy/Girl. If you can help please contact me at davidbabigirl@aol.com
Posted on 1/20/2010 6:38:00 PM by Anonymous
Seekiing to adopt 2 little children from Haiti, If you can help please contact me at gsreimer@hotmail.com
Posted on 1/20/2010 2:52:00 PM by Anonymous
We really would like to adopt 2 little children from Haiti. Can you help us with this. Thankyou. Sara
Posted on 1/20/2010 2:49:00 PM by Anonymous
Seeking to adopt a infant or toddler boy or sibling group of boys infant/toddler. If you can help please contact me at kcfullback23@aol.com. Thank you
Posted on 1/18/2010 11:44:00 PM by Anonymous
Seeking to adopt either boy or girl into a loving home in Canada British Columbia. No preferance of nationality required. Age - infancy to 12 years with the love and means to care for and provide. Siblings are also a warm welcomed possibility. Please send emails to mialebeu@telus.net for more info or inquiery. Sincerely & Regards...
Posted on 1/18/2010 11:32:00 PM by Anonymous
Seeking to adopt, any age infant OR child, am in FL, single, home owner, email me at flgailann@aol.com I am open to an OPEN adoption. Open on girl OR boy, open to any race child. I love them all. I enjoy many activities, have pets, love to laugh, non-smoker.
Posted on 1/16/2010 5:08:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband & I been trying to have a baby for 3 years but no luck we prayed a whole lot for a miracle.We wish our dreams would come true to become parents. I hope you all get your dreams to become true.
Posted on 1/14/2010 11:06:00 PM by Anonymous
I must agree with the anonymous person from 11/18. Be grateful you have children. Thank the Lord everyday you have children. There are many of us out here that don't have any. We are trying desparately to achieve what you already have. The expenses of adopting are overwhelming as some of you know. That does not mean we won't love a child just as much as you do. Please help those that don't have the luxury of paying thousands of dollars for their dreams.
Posted on 1/10/2010 6:53:00 PM by Anonymous
i am a 26 yr old married woman with 1girl she is 6 and my son is 5. After i had my son i had a lot of complication so they had to take my uterus so i can no longer have children and my husband and i would love to add another baby to our family! my kids would love to have a brother or sister! if u have any advice please let me know? Thank You Very Much!
Posted on 1/7/2010 11:05:00 PM by Anonymous
I am a 22yr old single woman. young i know i'm the one who's usually watching everyone i n my family children which is ok with me i love children.I've just recently found out i can not have chidren. I know it take time and lots of money which i don't have. which is why im starting early. I would love nothing more than to have a chid of my own. If you have any advice i'm all ears.
Posted on 11/30/2009 6:10:00 PM by Anonymous
You people should be grateful for the fact that you already have a child or two or three!! I have PCOS and will NEVER be able to have a child; maybe you should think of others like myself before you start crying about not being able to have ANOTHER!
Posted on 11/18/2009 2:22:00 AM by Anonymous
I recently adopted my daughter from S Korea. She is now 2 years old. My husband and I also have 2 biological sons. It's a lot of hard work, takes time, patience and money. But it can be done! There are adoptions loans and grants out there. There is also a tax credit for adoption in the state of Tn. Also a lot of employers offer adoption benefits that many people don't know about until they start thoroughly reading their employee handbook. It took us almost a year to get her home, we traveled and brought her back with us. But in the end, I could not imagine our lives without her now! Good luck to all of you beginning this process.
Posted on 10/31/2009 9:04:00 AM by Anonymous
We want to share the love that we have in our hearts with a young child we would like to adopt a child betwen the ages of newborn to 3 yrs we are not racially segragrated we love all children from anywhere we are not able to have children of our own and would love to be able to give all the love we share to a child that we can raise as our own we can take care of all the childs needs and can help with any medical expenses. We would love to have the chance to love and take care of a child we have so much love to and attention to give. I would love to be able to talk to you about adoption our email is aconnerbhunter@gmail.com Please we have so much love to give Thank you so much for taking the time to read this I hope that we will finally get a chance to be the parents we want to be
Posted on 10/25/2009 12:09:00 AM by Anonymous
We want to give a loving and caring home to a child.we love children very much they are the greatest but cant have any of our own and we know that we can provide all the love and support need to care for a child we can take care of everything for the child and help with medical expenses. I would love to talk to you about adoption your child our email is acskorpion616@gmail.com Please we are really interested in having a child that we can raise as our own with lots of love and attention to give. Thanks
Posted on 10/24/2009 11:59:00 PM by Anonymous
anonymous that is trying to get to Nebraska please email me so I can see what you need. ktitus777@yahoo.com. Also if there is anyone out there regardless of race and you are pregnant my husband and I would love to talk to you about adopting your baby. We can get you a full ride scholarship to college through an adoption program. ktitus777@yahoo.com
Posted on 10/24/2009 10:50:00 PM by Anonymous
After I am done with collage I really what to a adoption kids cause I think kids are a great Joy to have around. here is my e-mail: jshadows340@aol.com.. Thanks
Posted on 10/23/2009 5:10:00 PM by Anonymous
My daughter & son-in-law live in Arkansas and she is a preschool teacher and loves her job; he works as a cook at a handicap workshop.They have been married for 8 years and can't have children but would love to have a baby. They checked into adopting a white baby and the fee was up in the thousands; I'm talking like $30,000.00. They said that they couldn't afford to pay that much money or didn't have that much money. I am doing some checking for them; I live in Saint Louis, MO. I was wanting to know how much it is to adopt a newborn? I sure would appreciate some information on this. It would make them so happy if they could afford to adopt a baby.I hope to hear from you soon. Thankyou from jeamelungnmo@yahoo.com
Posted on 10/9/2009 12:12:00 AM by Anonymous
i am a 17 year old still in high school i will be getting married to my sons dad in a couple of months and in finishing high school earlier and i got accepted to law school... so even though im 17 and young iam getting my self together
Posted on 9/15/2009 5:37:00 PM by Anonymous
i was woundering what it would take to adopt a child
Posted on 9/13/2009 1:35:00 AM by Anonymous
need to have information for the grandparents that wish to addopt.
Posted on 9/1/2009 4:04:00 PM by Anonymous
im looking to adopt a baby under 1 years of age [ boy ] from cameroon, africa
Posted on 8/13/2009 7:52:00 PM by Anonymous
me and my husband want a baby, and are having trouble getting pregnant! So we would like to looking into adopting a baby boy. I have 2 girls from a previous marriage. What can we do?
Posted on 7/15/2009 12:25:00 PM by Anonymous
I am looking to adop in New Brunswick Canada, I am a mom of 2, 10 and 7, because of trouble with my second one I am unable to have more babies, My kids really want a little brother or sister as much as I wasnt more babies. Anyone out there who is in need and scared and alone, I open my home to you, to keep you safe and protected along with your baby. I have no trouble with open adoption at all. I am a loving mom and have alot of love to give. Let me know if you need someone to care for your sweet baby, in times you cant, you will always be a part of there lifes.
Posted on 7/7/2009 5:38:00 PM by Anonymous
why do movie stars go to different countries to get babies? At a tea yesterday the ladies said its to expensive to adopt here. is this true? and they said it cost at least $40,000. to do it and in other countries it is free or inexpensive. I cannot believe this. Is it true? thank you for answers to these questions... We need to take care of our babies and children in this country! Sincerely Rosemary Dixon of Burbank
Posted on 6/9/2009 7:53:00 PM by Anonymous
I can understand why my friends are SO confused and frustrated in their desire to obtain credible information to foster/adopt a toddler and/or toddler siblings. They reside in Tarzana, California and are wonderful people. Please send me ANY information....including a telephone number. Thank you kra3boys@yahoo.com
Posted on 5/13/2009 8:27:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband & I would love to adopt. We have a 31, 28, 27 & 18 year old (all out of the house now). We adopted the 18 year old when he was 9. We were going to use a surrogate a couple of years ago, but hooked up with the wrong agency and ended up getting taken for $35,000.00. We can't do that again. We'd love to be parents again.
Posted on 5/12/2009 4:03:00 PM by Anonymous
i love to adopt a chinese baby, but 7yrs ago,by accident, i picked up a girl baby in front out apt. i finished all legal documents in china and u.s.a., u.s.a.immigration office approvl my daughter to immigrate to u.s.a. i took my daughter to the u.s.a. consulator in guangzhou ,china, they rejected me to take my daughter to the usa. i spent tons of money for my daughter, i don't what i should do to get my daughter to here...need help
Posted on 5/2/2009 3:14:00 AM by Anonymous
I just want to write a little note of hope to anyone out there who needs some. My husbanh and I thought that when we turned 31, and we still had not become parents, after trying everything that it just was not Gods will for us. Then we turned it all over to him. That was December of 2001. We are now the parents of 3 boy's, and 3 girl's, ages (get ready...) 11,10,9,7,6 and 2. The 2 year old was the only one that we got from birth, but we love each and everyone of them. We actualy went through the adoption process 4 diffrent times, cause they were from 4 diffrent families, from all all over the state. Pray, keep you'r faith and hope it is a long, long process that has some pretty special rewards at the end. GOD BLESS, W.LONGORIA
Posted on 4/20/2009 8:40:00 PM by Anonymous
How can an adoption be free? I am glad that if that is true that finally someone has actually put the care and life of a child over mone and for that I am grateful. Iwe want to be a family but I cannot have children and I am happily married but we tried twice to deal with people from cameroon and both times we have been scammed and it has cost up about $45.000 and we can't go through that again when we are such loving people. Please help
Posted on 4/18/2009 11:20:00 PM by Anonymous
Hi this is Charleen Winn, My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 6 years and its been real hard because I sit back and look at all these people with babies and they just don't know how blessed they are and I up praying morning, noon, and night for a baby. One day after praying the Lord came to me and he said there are so many children out there praying for parents just like you. So here I go no matter what way I become a parent, I'm going to be blessed.
Posted on 4/18/2009 10:49:00 PM by Anonymous
Me and My husband would like to adopt. We have no idea how to get started. you can contact me at latosha_n@yahoo.com. Thanks!
Posted on 4/14/2009 5:00:00 PM by Anonymous
Every child needs to feel loved and wanted and given the chance to know whats its like to be a child to play and know that they have someone that will love them for the rest of their lives.
Posted on 4/14/2009 3:12:00 AM by Anonymous
I WOULD LIKE TO HELP A CHILD
Posted on 4/10/2009 12:41:00 PM by Anonymous
HOW MUCH COST ADOPT A CHILD IN UNITED STATES?
Posted on 4/10/2009 12:40:00 PM by Anonymous
If it were not for my sons birthmom,I wouldn't be enjoying the best experience of my life right now. Some people are not fortunate to have children on their own.
Posted on 4/7/2009 12:08:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I have been married for almost five years. We are looking to adopt a child of bi-racial or caucasian decent. We have completed the homestudy process through a local Catholic Social Services. We are excited about becoming parents.
Posted on 3/20/2009 9:23:00 PM by Anonymous
This is not to discourage any one person from adopting a child...Let me jus start with that... 09October04 a healthy 7lbs 5oz baby girl was born to a mother that had a pre-existing case with social services. The biological father was a registered sexual offender ( charges were... molesting and annoying a minor) and hadn't been in a rehabilitation program long enough to have custody. I at the time had been admitted to the hospital to do an emergency surgery to remove my gall bladder. The mother asked if I would be willing to care for her until the required demands were complete. I took her home that day.... long story short.... TWO AND A HALF YEARS LATER @ 28 MONTHS OLD, JUVENILE COURT FAMILY JUDGE DECIDED TO GRANT THE FATHER HIS PARENTAL RIGHTS. I had 3 days left with her after spending every waking moment with her. Social workers telling me there is no way this child will be returned and to foster I had to start the adoption process the next day. I absofreakinlutely appreciate the time I did have with her~ she will be who she is due to me loving her as my very own flesh and blood. Once returned to the bio-parents a year and a half went by...The modesto bee had the fathers pic and charges right in front of my face.... POSSESSION OF CHILD PORNOGRAPHY AND METHAMPHETIMINES... the mom packed them up and moved out of state and it been almost 3 1/2 years since i heard anything....she is now 6 years old... AGAIN THIS IS NOT TO PUT A NEGATIVE ASPECT ON ADOPTION..... jUS AN UNJUST SYSTEM IS ALL...... MAJIKRANE73@AOL.COM
Posted on 3/4/2009 9:32:00 PM by Anonymous
how do i go about getting the application?
Posted on 3/4/2009 2:17:00 PM by Anonymous
AM RAISING MY GRANDAUGHTER OF 10 YEARS. SHE AND I WANT A BABY. SHE MISSES HER SISTER. IVE BEN WANTING A BABY FOR AWHILE NOW IM SINGLE. I HAVE RAISED MY CHILDREN 4 OF THEM. THEY ARE OUT ON THEIR OWN NOW WITH THEIR OWN FAMILIES. OR WOULD LIKE TO FIND SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO GIVE UP THEIR CHILD I WOULD GLADLY ADOPT IT.....RRF
Posted on 3/3/2009 11:18:00 PM by Anonymous
I had my daughter when I was 18. I was leeps and bounds beyond imature. Itook a lot of support to get us where we are now. Supprisingly it was the babysitter who helped me grow into a good mother. After I became pregnant with twins 4 years later she also decided to adopt them. Yes I was young but the love of a mother endures all things. I Thank God for her.
Posted on 2/19/2009 10:35:00 AM by Anonymous
I DO NOT think teens should give up their baby/babies. Teens are old enough to make their own choices and we shouldn't make them give up a part of them because there to young. If my teen daughter had a baby I would look after it until she was old enough and has a house and good job to watch it herself. I don't think anyone should have to give up their baby just because their not old enough. You never get the chance to have our baby back after all the contracts are signed so why not keep the baby and enjoy life? Grow up and have fun you Scrooges! Love all you teens, I support you 100%!!
Posted on 2/14/2009 12:39:00 PM by Anonymous
A friend of mine had a baby. She want's me to adopt it. But she dosnt know who the father is. Can i adopt it without the father? Also i was wondering how much it would cost. To have the paper work done if i was able to adopt her? Thank you!
Posted on 2/13/2009 9:25:00 PM by Anonymous
HI,THIS IS SHEWAKENA,DOCUMENTARY FILM MAKER,MAKING DOCUMENTARIES FOR ADOPTIVE FAMILES WHO HAD BEEN ADOPT FROM ETHIOPIA.I HAVE MY OWN WEBSITE.IF YOU WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT ME JUST FORWARD ME AND I WILL WRITE YOU MY ADRESS.
Posted on 2/10/2009 10:23:00 AM by Anonymous
Hi me and my hubby just got married and we are wanting to adopt a new born baby girl.I have tried and tried to have one ever since i was 28 yrs old.I got pregnant at the age of 38 and had a miscarriage at 2 in a half months and they say that my felopian tubes are casuing me from getting pregnant now so now we want to adopt.
Posted on 2/8/2009 6:22:00 PM by Anonymous
Hi, my ex-husband's mother is dying and she had adopted a child who is now 5 years old. She lives in Tennessee and I live in NY. I am a single mom with an 8 year old. I have a steady job as a teacher and if the mother is willing to allow me to adopt the girl, what will we need to do? I don't know how much longer she has to live.
Posted on 1/31/2009 11:15:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband has been wanting to adopt my son for a while now, We just need to know how to go about it. What the cost is? My husband is legally by the church my son's godparent, happened way before we got married. There is no birth father on the birth cert. any help would be greatful. Thank you in advance,
Posted on 1/28/2009 1:00:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I have five childen ranging in ages 39-28, we also have a son that is adopted. Alex is 11 years old, we've had him in our lives from the time he was two months old. This last Christmas he asked for a baby brother about five years old and named "John". We would love to add to our family with a brother for Alex, being an only child is hard on him.
Posted on 1/25/2009 7:02:00 PM by Anonymous
I just read a comment abiut Adopting in Haiti. Please give me more details
Posted on 1/25/2009 1:30:00 PM by Anonymous
I was just wondering, I recently took temporary custody of two children because their mom was unfit and would leave them with strangers. She recently came back and got them and I have been told she is doing the same things again. Is their a legal way I could fight to get the children back without dragging the children through a trial?
Posted on 1/22/2009 2:04:00 PM by Anonymous
my husband and i want to adopt. we have 3 children of our own. i cant have children any more. we want one more. how hard is it to go through the state?
Posted on 1/19/2009 11:07:00 PM by Anonymous
I also currently have custody of my son, have had him for 3 years I would like to have the home study waived. Is that possible? I have the parental rights of both parents. I have had him since he was 3 months old?? Any suggestions out there..
Posted on 1/14/2009 4:00:00 PM by Anonymous
I currently have temp guardianship of my 'daughter' but will be beginning the adoption process within the next month or two and wanted to know how they handle it if there is no father to sign his rights away and how long it should take if the birth mother is willing to sign hers away immediately. Also I have not had the home study done and am going to file for a motion to waive the home study...my 'daughter' is already 4 mnths old and I have had her since she was released from the hospital...anyone have any answers to help me out here?
Posted on 1/12/2009 11:49:00 PM by Anonymous
I think adoption is best thing for me because i have a grandchild and he's 11 years old and i would think older adoption would be great for him because my 11 year old boy can teach him the stuff he knows about school and he can help him out a lot.
Posted on 1/9/2009 7:53:00 AM by Anonymous
to Anounymous trying to get to Nebraska: with the 4 month old and 3 yaer old. Don't know the problem but would like to help you. Come to WV. e-mail me : gingersnapfriend@yahoo.com. Vickie
Posted on 1/7/2009 8:09:00 PM by Anonymous
I am mother who has found a family to take my newborn child how do I legally go about signing over my rights to this family.
Posted on 1/5/2009 11:50:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I are just beginning the process of adoption and hope to adopt here in the US. We hope to learn from others as far as what has worked or not worked.
Posted on 1/3/2009 5:25:00 PM by Anonymous
For those who want to adopt, HAITI is a great place, find the right person to go with you, don;t go alone.
Posted on 12/12/2008 5:01:00 PM by Anonymous
our son past away 11years ago and would olve to be a family again
Posted on 12/5/2008 7:35:00 PM by Anonymous
Would love to adopt.Had 2 children of my own.Both married.Not able to have any more.I just think any child should have a chance in life.A family who can give love,happiness,direction in life to become a strong adult.Thank you.
Posted on 12/1/2008 9:12:00 PM by Anonymous
i want a baby now and if not now i will try to find someone haveing a baby i can adopt and enter into an adoption through them if i canc
Posted on 12/1/2008 6:59:00 PM by Anonymous
Private adoption is very possible and usually takes less than (1) year. We ran ads in newspapers and had an attorney on standby. I will always and forever feel very blessed to have been able to raise my son (he's now 22 years old and looks more like me than my other 2 biological children. We picked him up at the hospital when he was 24 hours old and the birthmother signed the papers (3) days later. I have truly been blessed and you can too.
Posted on 11/30/2008 9:10:00 PM by Anonymous
As a partent of seven adopted children and three bio children I can tell you, you love them all the same. My children range from 41 - 14 and Yes I would do it all over. It has been a journey that only love can take you on because the road some times is rough and long. God has really blessed us and I hope you too will be as blessed as we have been. We took teenagers they need love too!
Posted on 11/27/2008 6:39:00 PM by Anonymous
Hello as a mother of three boilogical kids and two step children I feel compelled to leave a comment! I am in the process of trying to adopt another child I love children and want another I don't care if it is a boy or girl or if it is newborn or 16 years old. I have love to give and the means to provide for them and would do what I can to make them feel loved and wanted. For all of you wanting to adopt please remember there are older kids that need a warm, loving, and safe home.
Posted on 11/25/2008 9:01:00 AM by Anonymous
Hello my name is alshante I'm in the United States National Guard. I'm a single mother of one 8yr. old daughter and I'm also the eldest of 5 sisters. I have a very supportive and loving family. I just want to know if their is anyone out there in Michigan who can't take care of their male child or someone who isn't fit to take care of their newborn. Now when I say isn't fit that doesn't mean your a bad person but someone who just don't have the means/someone who just can't right now. My daughter and I are loving and sweet people and we just want to add to our LOVING FAMILY! Please don't be afraid to respond!!
Posted on 11/24/2008 2:48:00 AM by Anonymous
how are potential adoption parents screened. If they have criminal records does that omit them. What if they lie about being related to the children or family so they can get an order of gaurdianship put on the childrens family without proof or anything to back up their statements. Can an order be put on a whole family and all thier relatives not to have any contact with the children with no notice to the family or give them a chance to answer to the statements against them. Do we have to be notified of this order. What if we were not given our right to stand up for ourselves. What can we do to over turn this order which is made on false allegations and we can prove it. CFS wont discuss this. the courts wont give us any information but the gaurdian is laughing in our faces. your never going to see your grandkids. we saw to that. What can we do about this.
Posted on 11/22/2008 10:23:00 PM by Anonymous
im tryin to find out if my 10 year old has been adopted yet
Posted on 11/21/2008 2:45:00 PM by Anonymous
How would you go about lookin for a birth mom? my son is 9 and he sometimes asks me about her and would like to meet her I would love for that to happen for him but what if she doesn't want that? any suggestions? I always tell him how loved he was by her. Any answers would be great.
Posted on 11/10/2008 7:22:00 PM by Anonymous
I want to adop my wife kid, what do I need to do?
Posted on 11/10/2008 12:56:00 AM by Anonymous
i want to adopt my 14 year old child
Posted on 11/9/2008 2:09:00 PM by Anonymous
all i want is to be able to see my grandchildren,it has been 2 years since i have seen.them.please help me to get permission to see them,i love them and miss them so much,my 3 grandchilcren are ryanna,larissa.oscar jr.cervera,i pray everynight that god will help me find them,thank you
Posted on 10/30/2008 9:42:00 PM by Anonymous
IF YOU CAN'T DECIDE BETWEEN ABORTION AND ADOPTION PLEASE go to planned parenthoods site for information on in-clinic abortions because they tell you how the procedure goes, but they mention that you get numbing medecine and sometimes even sedation. Just think if you need numbing medicine what about that baby don't you think they have feelings to they are being scrambled up and sucked out. We need to stop this there are many familys dying to have a baby, do the least selfish thing and atleast give that baby, not fetus it is a BABY, a chance to live. Your parents did for youso who are you to choose that baby's fate.
Posted on 10/30/2008 5:21:00 PM by Anonymous
Nebraska is now moving the date to change the age on safe haven drops on November 14th. To be honest I have no other option now. I can't get there before then. I am going to lose it on my children (4Months and 3yrs old) I am alone in raising them so I can't just give them to someone when I need a break. i wish people wouldn't have taken advantage of Nebraskas laws, cause now I don't know what to do
Posted on 10/29/2008 5:29:00 PM by Anonymous
I was wondering if sealed adoption records can be opened; and how do you find an adoptee without a name.I was told that once i gave up my rights I gave them them up.
Posted on 10/29/2008 4:17:00 PM by Anonymous
To the younge mother , who's Parents were taken in an accendent ; I read your post and you made me feel proud of you. No I not your mom but as a Mom who has 2 bio children , 1 step child and ,1 that I have gaurdianship of , and 2 that I am the trying to adopt that I have had for several years.(now 18,16,14,14,11,3) You did Good. Just keep aimimg high and never give up on your dreams. God Bless you and your child. Once more I am Proud of you. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for the smile . a MOM inAz
Posted on 10/28/2008 2:30:00 PM by Anonymous
I need advise, living in Texas, my one child ha a baby and CPS took her away due to her being retarted. My other child is willing to adopt. CPS said it would be paid for, now 2 yrs. into this they say the state of Texas will not help financially for the kinship adoption, We can't figure out the rules between there lies. Is there financial hellp of any kind to be able to assist with the cost of adopting. The person in SC said she had to pay nothing, how did you do that? Would be greatful for any helpful advise. Mary in Texas.
Posted on 10/28/2008 11:51:00 AM by Anonymous
Whoever that is that is being hurt, please call 911!! They can help you get you and your sister out of that situation!! God does love you. Please tell someone you trust and talk to the police!!
Posted on 10/27/2008 1:00:00 PM by Anonymous
people. help me. my family hurts me. especially my father and my 2nd older sister. i wanna be far from them. please. im hurt so much :(
Posted on 10/22/2008 5:55:00 PM by Anonymous
I have an ok & it also in the visitation court order from my expartner to adopt her child. I have adopted the oldest child but we have gone our seperate ways and now I need to the papers to adopt the second child. Where & how do I get the forms to start proceding?
Posted on 10/15/2008 3:37:00 PM by Anonymous
i need the paper for my new husband to adopt my 2 children
Posted on 9/12/2008 1:41:00 PM by Anonymous
My name is Regina, I recently found out I wouldn't be able to have children without the help of fertility drugs. I really don't want to go through that. I had multiple miscarriages when I was younger and I really want to raise children. I have 3 neices who just adore me and I love children. I just got married to a loving man who also loves children. I really want to be a mom. Anyone looking for parents for their new baby and needs a good home. Please call me we can meet. Regina Pentico 412-303-8411.
Posted on 9/11/2008 7:28:00 PM by Anonymous
Hi my name is Jennifer I am 30 years old. I have been married for 12 years and i have 2 girls 7 and 11. My husband and I desperatly wanted a 3rd child but after 2 ectopics we have been told Ivf or adoption is the only way. We have alot to offer a child. My girls are precious and we would love to add another child to our family, Call anytime 662 803 3321
Posted on 9/10/2008 12:06:00 AM by Anonymous
Hi my name is Patricia i am 20 years old i am the oldest of 6 kids My husband dominique and i want to adopt a little miracle because we have tried and tried to have a child of our own and have found out that I have cervical cancer and they want to do surgery and take my female organs so give us a miracle call anytime 1-318-247-1501 or cell 1-318-436-1099
Posted on 9/8/2008 10:47:00 PM by Anonymous
hi iam maried for ten years my husband have two girl of a past marrieg they are 18 and19 years old but i dont have no exsperiens with my own baby because i baby seet for my 3 sisters.the doctor say that my problem is just ovulation . but im still a little scare that the process woulnt work. if tha dont work i still in back of my mine i think i will adopt a baby.d.c.n.
Posted on 9/8/2008 7:37:00 PM by Anonymous
me and my husband are looking to adopt a infant,and would really like to get more information on the adoption.i do not work and my husband is disabled so do not work either.i had surgery that prevented me from giving my husband a child.i have two girls by previous relationships their ages are 8and14.he has a son that is 15.so our kids are pretty well set but my husband and i would like to raise a baby together from an infant.
Posted on 9/8/2008 3:06:00 PM by Anonymous
i wuold love to adopt but i dont have the time
Posted on 9/7/2008 11:49:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I are infertile and we decided to go through the foster care system to adopt. Although highly unusual, we were able to adopt a healthy baby boy. His mother had lost five other children due to neglect and drug use, so we were able to get him at 3 days old and picked him up from the hospital. This sort of adoption IS a possibility, however, I do not recommend it for those of you who are desperate to be parents. We were not even sure we would be able to adopt him until 3 months into it, and by then, we had bonded with him and we thought of him as OUR baby. He was finally adopted at 9 months old, and now he is 2 years old. The waiting period was terrible for me, and we would like to adopt again, but I am not sure I can go through the uncertainty of foster care. We are now considering adoption through Catholic Charities, but it is not just the $250 court charges like with our son. It is well below $10,000, but still pricey for us. Just know it IS possible to adopt without having to go overseas and spending 10s of thousands of dollars. Good luck to all of you out there who want to be parents. Our little boy is simply wonderful and we are so blessed to be his parents! :)
Posted on 8/24/2008 11:46:00 PM by Anonymous
We adopted a 12 month old two years ago through the state and did not foster first. In our state (SC) threre was no cost to us at all. We had him for a year before all the paper work was finalized but it was a pretty easy process.
Posted on 8/23/2008 8:02:00 AM by Anonymous
Dear Anonymous, I have four bio kids and I am currently looking into adoption. You asked why and I think it's a very fair question. I was never supposed to get pregnant. We began discussing adoption early into our marriage. I had complications that made it very difficult to conceive my first child. We didn't think it would ever happen. I believe that God healed me and I was able to give birth to four children. However, there is a child that isn't here. It's that child that I dreamed about adopting during my infertility. Just because I have children already doesn't mean I am less capable of loving more. If anything, I have learned just how big my heart is. You were not like some outsider brougt into an already existing family. You were wanted and chosen and everyone in the family slid over to make room for you. Please don't undermine your value and your worth in that family. You are a chosen member.
Posted on 8/17/2008 4:22:00 PM by Anonymous
My husband and I have been fostering a sibling group of three. The parental rights were just terminated on bio mom AND dad. We want to adopt, but are not sure how to proceed with it. Is there a book/website/resource that could help us. These are theaputic foster children.
Posted on 8/13/2008 9:56:00 AM by Anonymous
For the mother of four- My husband and I have been considering adoption, and just recently learned from my sister that if you become a foster parent to a child that is eligible for adoption, the state would cover the cost of the adoption. Maybe that would be something you could look into. God bless your family!
Posted on 8/3/2008 4:05:00 PM by Anonymous
I'm a mother of four, but i would really like to adopt a child, i wanted to adopt one that is less likely to be adopted by anybody else...i know that to adopt newborn babies there's a whole list of people waiting, and i just really to maybe adopt an older child, that has been waiting the longest i guess, to finally give them love. Me and my husband don't make a lot of money, so i would like to know if anybody knows the real cost for an adoption?!?
Posted on 8/1/2008 8:22:00 AM by Anonymous
To those who are worried about their adoptive child not seeing them as the parent and always looking at their biological parent as their true mom and dad that’s a very big understatement. I was adopted at the age of 5 unfortunately my adoptive parents who I looked at as my real family was killed in an accident when I turned 12. I understood everything that was going on at the time of my adoption, my family explained everything as I got older and I even spoke to my biological mother. But I want to say this and make it clear. To be a true mother or father doesn’t mean that you have to have been the one to help conceive or give birth to the child. It simply means you are the provider and the person who gives nourishment, care and unconditional love even if that means tough love. As long as you have trust in them and make that child comfortable in trusting you then that’s all you need in order for them to look at you as their true parents. As for the person who stated all kids 17 and younger need to give their child up, you need to just keep those kinds of comments to yourself. When I lost my parents at 12 years old I became very depressed and I was missing that love from my parents, so I replaced it with what I thought was love with a boy. Of course I became pregnant at the age of 13 and a lot of people said I should give my baby up because I had no business trying to raise a baby when I myself was still I child and that it would be impossible. Well I’m here to say I got a job soon as I found out I was pregnant and I also started to baby sit when I wasn’t working. I saved all my money buying everything I was going to need for the baby from the very first month I was pregnant I was able to buy all my baby’s clothes up to the age 4years old within those 9 months being pregnant. And I also had all other baby things stocked up only thing I had to buy after having my baby was formula and I found a school where I could continue my education while having my baby at school with me. Needless to say I graduated from school and went on to college, I’m now in child care development classes. I have succeeded way beyond most 18, 19 or 20 year olds who get pregnant. So before deciding for a child what’s best let them decide if it’s really worth trying.
Posted on 7/25/2008 3:29:00 PM by Anonymous
I gave up my daughter for adoption a few years ago. i was extremely depressed . i just wish i could go back time and make a different decision. but going through counseling has made me realize it was a disease that i coulnt control. i wish adoption agencies could see that depression is one of the main reasons birth mothers make a choice to consider adoption. thyre other reasons but this is how it starts.they should try and counsel before any action is made. im an emotional wreck now . i wish i could have her back. my dear baby girl.
Posted on 7/22/2008 9:58:00 PM by Anonymous
Hello, My name is Alan and I have a few questions. My birthday is december 2 1972 and I was adopted 11 days later by Alan and Margaret Weston. My daughter may have autism and I am trying to get some family history for medical purposes and possibly meet my birth parents if they so desire. I don’t know if you are allowed to tell me this information or not , but if you could help me I would greatly appreciate it. Please e mail me at HammeAtx@aol.com
Posted on 7/19/2008 8:36:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I adopted a 4yr girl in dec. thru a flat rate agency. during the signing of papers, we were inform that the bio-father was known, but homeless. Birth mom was 98% positive biodad would sign over rights. Agency did diligent search - with only 3 days left until rights were removed. Birth mom found biodad and told him to call. From that point on - we have been in legal battle. AGency is now asking for LARGE amount of $$$ to continue the fight. We are already $50,000 into already. If we don't come up with another $40,000 the agency would come get our daughter. We are at a loss right now and don't know where to turn. Bio-father is in jail again for pan-handling and being homeless again. Judge granted him an extention since he is in jail. The court date continues to be moved - now we are looking at Oct. Which means, for the next several months, the agency will continue to ask for more money. This is the worst experience EVER! Does anybody have any advise??
Posted on 7/10/2008 10:00:00 AM by Anonymous
My husband and I are looking to adopt. We would like to work it out with the birth mother and an attorney. Where do we find a birth-mother? Susan
Posted on 7/8/2008 3:57:00 PM by Anonymous
We are adopting through dillon international it is a wonderful agency. We are currently in the india program. Things are going well. I would recommend this agency. We have been blessed with 2 wonderful boys biologically and we are looking foward to meeting our daughter.
Posted on 6/10/2008 7:46:00 PM by Anonymous
We are the proud parents of birth, adopted & foster children. We did not adopt babies, but a sibling group that includes teens, and a single adoption. Although different from birthing, adoption is STILL LOVING. We are indeed, very blessed and will adopt again.
Posted on 6/10/2008 6:09:00 PM by Anonymous
I am looking for counseling for my granddaughter who wants to give her baby for adoption to her sister & brother-in-law. Her thoughts seem to go to being with the baby every moment she can. She is telling the birth parents what she prefers for them to do as far as name, lack of religious training for the baby, feeding, etc. She seems only to truly be up to the child she is carrying to be in her sister's home for financial care & not mush else. She need counseling as to what this truly involves. Do you know of a place that has such facilities in or near Crescent City, CA?
Posted on 6/4/2008 11:48:00 AM by Anonymous
How sad and silly all the comments I read. Is just one "blessing after another blessing". Courage and sacrifice and more blessings.Someone also says that the birth parents will always be the 'real parents'.I think that people want a child so badly that they are losing their minds when thy express themselves. If the birth parents will always be the 'real parents' are we going to be the unreal ones? Another ones says "teens SHOULD give up their children, here is not a matter or SHOULD or SHOULD not, is a matter of what the teen decides and his her parents decided in the best interest of the child.
Posted on 6/2/2008 8:09:00 PM by Anonymous
we hope everybody there injoys there new family
Posted on 5/24/2008 4:52:00 PM by Anonymous
Dear Birth Parents, Making an adoption plan is a loving choice. It is a gift both to the child and to the adoptive parents. Thank you for giving life to your baby and for giving joy to another family. Your courage and sacrifice will be remembered. Hopeful Adoptive Mom to be
Posted on 5/17/2008 6:26:00 PM by Anonymous
you have the choice to give up your child... but no matter whether you choose give them up or not you will always be their birth parent. for those who adopt... you are their "real" parents. i think its important for kids to know that. and thankyou to the loving parents who do adopt!
Posted on 5/17/2008 3:24:00 PM by Anonymous
There are so many people, that want and have the ability to love a provide a stable home for children. Please give us tha opprotunity to provide a home for your child. By giving your child up for adoption you are truely blessing so many more lives than you could ever know. Bless you in your decisions. Your decisions could be our blessings. Peace
Posted on 5/9/2008 6:02:00 PM by Anonymous
i think that teens who are under the age of 17 dont need to have kids because they dont really know how to take care of a baby just yet since their still in high school and are still learning how to take care of themselves wtihout the help of their own parents. so teens should give up thier babies when they have them with the consente of their parents permission.
Posted on 4/18/2008 12:43:00 PM by Anonymous